How To Talk To Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships
Author: Leil Lowndes
Genre: Health
Published: NaN/NaN/2014
What is that magic quality makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single, their lover!) In business, they rise swiftly to the top of the corporate ladder. What is their "Midas touch?" What it boils down to is a more skillful way of dealing with people.

Key Points

Do you want to be a better communicator? In her book, Lois Lowndes uses her years of research to teach others how to become a more effective communicator.

First impressions are essential. Make sure you make a good one. Smile when you meet people. Don't fake it. Let the grin grow slowly. Women in corporate environments who smile more slowly are seen as more credible. When you're meeting different people, it's essential to change your smile for each person.

Making eye contact shows respect and attention. Maintain eye contact even when you stop talking to the person.

Proper body language is essential. When meeting people for the first time, do so as if they were an old friend. Turn your body towards them. Don't fidget; control your hand gestures. Avoid touching your face because that makes you look less credible. Keep calm.

Smooth introductions make for great conversations. If you want to get to talk to someone, you can get an introduction from a mutual friend or the host or the party. Or you can hover near the stranger, listening in, and jump in when appropriate. An ice breaker is an excellent way to start a conversation. Another option is for the host to introduce each person with an interesting fact about each person to make it easy to make conversation. Once you start a conversation, pay close attention to each other's speaking and actions. Match the mood and tone. If the tone is laid back, be laid back. Always remember: Don't be afraid! Be positive! You can do it!

You'll find that small talk is essential to winning someone over. When someone asks you where you went to college, don't give one-word answers. Elaborate. In fact, you should end with an interesting fact that introduces another topic. Be a good listener. An excellent way to have a good conversation is to let the other person talk. If you know someone in the group has a good story, let them talk. They will appreciate you! Also, be careful about what you say. Don't get too personal or reveal secrets. Stay on topic.

People like people who are like them. When talking to someone, try to emphasize what you have in common. Imitate their words and phrases. Drop the "ums" and use emphasizers to show them that you understand them. For example, instead of "um," say something like, "That seems right." Also, use the words "we" and "us" to strengthen the bonds you are forming.

Praising someone might backfire if the person feels that it is insincere. To avoid that, go through a mutual acquaintance to praise them indirectly. If you are going to praise that person, be specific and immediate. Praise them as soon as they do the thing. Make sure the praise is genuine.

Be considerate of others. Sometimes people want to vent and talk about their problems. Let them do so and be thoughtful. Make sure to properly end all conversations. If someone interrupts you midway through a conversation with someone, as soon as the interruption ends, go back to where the conversation ended up. Sometimes things are better left unsaid. Instead of humiliating people when they do something wrong, it might be best to overlook it. They'll be more than appreciative.

When giving out favors, don't ask people to drop everything for the favor. Be patient. When giving someone a favor, don't ask for one immediately after you gave them a favor. Wait for the right time.

If you want to succeed in your career, it's important to be professional. When talking to your boss, be clear and specific. Cut to the chase. When talking to someone about a subject, anticipate how they will react. For example, if you have bad news to say, say it in a tender tone. When meeting a potential client, tell them what you do. Tell them the benefits of what your product will give them and the benefits you will get. Try to be as honest and transparent. Always stay calm. Remember that people don't like to talk about their day jobs; instead of asking them what they do, ask them how they spend their time. Don't humiliate others by making jokes at their expense.

Keep business and personal life separate. Always be honest and present your best self. Don't be afraid of making mistakes. Always be the first person to speak up or applaud.

If you want to be taken seriously from a professional perspective, make sure to prepare for meetings. Work on your vocabulary and have some quotations handy that are relevant to your particular situation. For example, quotes from Bill Gates or Einstein. Brush up your business jargon. This will help your colleagues welcome you into their inner circle and give you the respect you deserve. Familiarize yourself with local customs.

Improve your phone skills. Answer phones crisply and professionally. Greet people like they are friends. When on the phone, people cannot see how you're reacting; try to reassure them by saying, "I'm happy to hear that" or "I understand." People like when they hear their name. Say their more than once when speaking to them on the phone.

When entering a room, you want to make a good impression. Say you're invited to a party, it's essential to make a strong entrance and to take the initiative. Remember that the first impression is everything. Before you enter the room, pause at the door, scan the room, smile, and go in. With confidence, move towards the most important person in the room. Be mindful of your body language, eye contact, etc. Make sure you are listening more than talking. Make sure you take mental notes of what people are talking about so that you can use it later.

The Main Take-away

Forming meaningful relationships with people doesn't have to b hard. By reading How to Talk to Anyone, you'll learn how to deal with people. You'll learn how to introduce yourself to strangers, make sure you are making an excellent first impression, handle your body language, give people effective and genuine praise, and have successful professional interactions. You'll learn how to talk to anyone and win them over.

About the author

Leil Lowndes is a famous communications expert specializing in the subconscious interactions that take place in interpersonal communication. She is a prolific public speaker and has spoken at hundreds of seminars for top corporations, associations across the USA. She is the author of 10 top-selling books on communication skills in business, social relationships, and love. Her work has been featured in Time Magazine, Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Chicago Tribune, as well as other renowned publications.


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