Girl, Stop Apologizing

Girl, Stop Apologizing
Published: 3/5/2019
“I believe we can change the world. But first, we’ve got to stop living in fear of being judged for who we are.” Rachel Hollis has seen it too often: women not living into their full potential. They feel a tugging on their hearts for something more, but they’re afraid of embarrassment, of falling short of perfection, of not being enough.

Girl, Stop Apologizing by Rachel Hollis

Girl, Stop Apologizing is about recognizing social normalities against women and overcoming them to achieve goals and happiness.

Society expects women to be caregivers, wives, and mothers. Pursuing careers and goals outside of this creates negative feedback, fear, and male intimidation.

Women must rise above this to live the life that they want.

Key Takeaways

That's Not What Other Women Do

-Society has expectations of what a woman should do: cook, clean and raise kids. Women are thought down upon when they deviate from this "norm.”

-Women care about what others think of them. When going against the "norm," they need to ignore what other people say.

I'm Not a Goal-Oriented Person

-It is foolish to wait around hoping that their dream life will appear. Women need to work on goals to make their dream life a reality.

-Women have the potential for an extraordinary life and they should not settle for less.

I Don't Have Time

-Since time is so limited, it is crucial to prioritize tasks so the important ones get done first.

-Planning, organizing, and scheduling are important to manage time effectively and get all the important things done.

I'm not Enough to Succeed

-Women need to chase their dreams and have full faith that they can achieve them.

-Fear and negativity from others can hold women back, but they should feel confident in themselves and their abilities.

I Can't Pursue My Dream and Still Be a Good Mom/Daughter/Employee

-Women need to set new social standards. They have been confined by gender roles for centuries and have not had the opportunity to dream big and achieve bigger.

-Being a good wife and mother doesn't stop women from also pursuing happiness.

I'm Terrified of Failure

-Failure is a building block to success and women shouldn't fear it. Everyone has faced failure at some point. Women should use setbacks to learn and improve themselves.

It's Been Done before

-Women should avoid comparing themselves to their competition. They should focus on themselves and their goals only.

What Will They Think?

-Caring about negative criticism slows women down. It is best to ignore it and not worry about what people think.

Good Girls Don't Hustle

-Women need to hustle if they want to achieve their goals. They must be strong, be motivated to make their life better and ignore the status quo.

Stop Asking Permission

-Grown adults do not need permission from anyone to make decisions for themselves. Women do not need to seek permission from men or society.

Choose One Dream and Go All In

-Focus on one goal at a time and do the goals in order of priority.

-Organize goals with the 10, 10, 1 formula. This formula is to help a person envision what they want their life to look like in 10 years. Decide what 10 dreams will take you to that vision. Then from that list, choose 1 goal at a time to focus on.

Embrace Your Ambition

-There are stereotypes about women. Women should not fear or be intimidated by men when they go against stereotypes.

Ask for Help!

-Delegation is important. Successful people delegate tasks so they can focus on their strengths.

-Some women have a hard time asking for help. But as they become more successful and get more responsibilities, women should be open to delegating and getting help.

Build Foundations for Success

-Women tend to care more about others then they do themselves. They can help others more if they focus on their success first to give it a solid foundation.

Stop Allowing Them to Talk You Out of It

-Women need to stand their ground and refuse to be influenced to go against their goals and beliefs.

Learn to Say No

-The best word to keep handy is the word "no." Use this word on tasks that go against the goal and be firm when saying it.

-Having priorities makes it easier to turn down requests.


-Having clear plans is like a roadmap. To set a clear plan, a person needs to take a look at where they are, where they want to go and determine the route to get there.


-A lack of confidence can hinder women when they reach obstacles on their path. They must have complete confidence that they can overcome difficulties and achieve the goal.


-Goals shouldn't have strict deadlines since obstacles are not always seen. People tend to give up on goals when they are not able to achieve them within a period.

-Achieving goals is a life-long objective. People should continue to pursue goals even after personal deadlines have passed.


-People need to stop engaging in time-wasting activities. These activities are taking away time to focus on the goals.


-Women will face challenges every day, but they can be overcome with a positive mindset. A positive attitude mixed with gratitude can help people overcome stress.


-Leadership skills tend to be suppressed in women. Women should practice being a leader by seeking leadership roles. Then they can inspire other women to achieve their goals.


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